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The Rocking Chair Test

by Dave on August 8, 2008

A lot of people I have known have regrets about their life.

They say that they wish they had:

  • gone to school
  • traveled the world
  • entered/exited a relationship
  • and many other things

When I hear these comments, it reminds me of something I heard many years ago called the rocking chair test.rocking chairs

The way it works is when you are trying to decide whether or not to do something ask this question: When I am old and grey sitting on my front porch in my rocking chair will I say “I wish I would have done it or I’m glad I did it”?

A lot of the regrets that we have stem from of outside pressures (friends, relatives). We want to please others and think that will make us happy.

The sobriety chips that are given out at AA meetings have one statement that says it all “To thine own self be true”. If we cannot act truthfully on our own feelings (wants and desires) then how can we be true to someone else?

So, the next time you are standing at a fork in the road, consider the rocking chair test.

Life is as good as I allow it to be.

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The Hundredth Monkey

by Dave on July 14, 2008

The Japanese monkey, Macaca fuscata, had been observed in the wild for a period of over 30 years.

In 1952, on the island of Koshima, scientists were providing monkeys with sweet potatoes dropped in the sand. The monkeys liked the taste of the raw sweet potatoes, but they found the dirt unpleasant.

An 18-month-old female named Imo found she could solve the problem by washing the potatoes in a nearby stream. She taught this trick to her mother. Her playmates also learned this new way and they taught their mothers too.

This cultural innovation was gradually picked up by various monkeys before the eyes of the scientists.

Between 1952 and 1958 all the young monkeys learned to wash the sandy sweet potatoes to make them more palatable.

Only the adults who imitated their children learned this social improvement. Other adults kept eating the dirty sweet potatoes.

Then something startling took place. In the autumn of 1958, a certain number of Koshima monkeys were washing sweet potatoes — the exact number is not known.

Let us suppose that when the sun rose one morning there were 99 monkeys on Koshima Island who had learned to wash their sweet potatoes.

Let’s further suppose that later that morning, the hundredth monkey learned to wash potatoes.

THEN IT HAPPENED!

By that evening almost everyone in the tribe was washing sweet potatoes before eating them.

The added energy of this hundredth monkey somehow created an ideological breakthrough!

But notice.

A most surprising thing observed by these scientists was that the habit of washing sweet potatoes then jumped over the sea –

Colonies of monkeys on other islands and the mainland troop of monkeys at Takasakiyama began washing their sweet potatoes.

Thus, when a certain critical number achieves an awareness, this new awareness may be communicated from mind to mind.

Although the exact number may vary, this Hundredth Monkey Phenomenon means that when only a limited number of people know of a new way, it may remain the conscious property of these people.

But there is a point at which if only one more person tunes-in to a new awareness, a field is strengthened so that this awareness is picked up by almost everyone!

(from the book “The Hundredth Monkey” by Ken Keyes, jr. The book is not copyrighted and the material may be reproduced in whole or in part. You can look at the whole book also.).

This theory can be applied to our daily lives. If we hang out with a bunch of thugs, the thug mentality will rub off on us. If you go to a barber shop long enough, you will eventually get a hair cut. Maybe, if you hang out with a bunch of people that enjoy and practice the spiritual life, who knows, maybe that lifestyle will rub off on you?

Life is as good as I allow it to be.

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