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As strange as it may sound, people treat you the way that you have trained them to treat you. You may not believe that this is always true but let’s take a look at your track record.

As a baby, you trained our parents to give you a change of clothes by crying. They learned that you were hungry when you made a lot of noise. You taught them that you enjoyed something by laughing or smiling.

When you got our “significant other”, you taught them that you were interested by displaying love and effect ion. If they felt the same, they would “return the feeling”. If they did not act the same way as you, you were taught to either change your behavior or move on to someone else.

You have acted in this manner all of your life in one way or another. When someone would be offensive, you would either take it or not. By sitting there and not saying anything, you taught the offender that it was ok. When you would say something or get up and leave, you taught them that their actions were not appropriate.

Quite often this training has taken a lot of time and has been very subtle. It is not always explosive or noisy. It can sometimes be as little as a look or a word or two to complete a lesson.

So, what can you do about all the relationships that you have created that are inappropriate? Well, you can set about to retrain these people. You can start to show them how you really want to be treated.

Before you can begin an effective training session with others, you will need to learn to treat yourself the way you want. It is not possible to train someone else to treat you better than you treat yourself.

Also, for a lot of us, we would not let our friends treat us as bad as we treat ourselves.

For some people, this task will not be very difficult. But others will take more effort to learn that you want to be treated differently.

When you get into a situation with one of your ’students’, think about how you want to be treated. If this is not happening, set about to instruct them. If someone is being abusive, you do not have to accept this action, you can walk out of the room. If someone is too “in your face”, you can place your hand on their chest and establish the amount of space you need.

By taking control of how you train others to treat you, you can begin to increase how happy you are with your actions.

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