How often do we observe the bad things that occur in our world but neglect the good?
We see the empty glass of milk that our child has been left on the table. But we fail to notice the fact that all the milk was consumed and will be acting to improve their health.
We notice the tiny flaws in a project that was constructed with love by our child but do not recognize the exertion that was put into the end result.
Why do these things occur? How is it that we continually hurt the ones we love the most?
A few will allege that it is because we are trying to help them. We are just trying to protect them from the world that they will run into down the road.
As for me, I would much rather receive the loving touch, hear the heartfelt laughter or view the adoring glance than the ‘constructive criticism’.
It may be suggested that without this hard training we would surely fail when we enter the cold cruel world.
But, isn’t it more beneficial to know that you have a safe place to retire to when the going gets rough than to be hesitant to ask your loved ones for help?
Here are a few suggestions that will help you produce a safe environment for your loved ones:
- 1. Use a delighted tone of voice when receiving a telephone call from your other half, instead of an aggravated tone or a rushed tempo that implied the partner’s call has disrupted important tasks (and inferring that they are less important)
- 2. Ask about the dentist appointments or other details of the other person’s day
- 3. Put down the remote control, newspaper, or telephone when the other partner walks thru the door
- 4. Arriving home at the anticipated time – or at least calling if there is a delay
What these things will do is help you show the other person that they are essential to you. That they do count.
All this boils down to is the fact that we need to honor our loved ones doing something good each and every day. There are always people out there waiting to tell them when and how they messed up.
If we abide by Mohandas Gandhi’s statement, ‘Be the change that you want to see in the world’, our world will get a little bit better each day.
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