Happiness

Health is your wealth and your happiness!

You have probably come upon quotes or sayings that voice the same thing. This is because one of the major reasons why people are happy is because they are healthy. Without physical strength and an active body, there can be no real happiness since you will not be able to accomplish and attain anything anymore.

This is why you do not have to ridicule those who are so conscious of what they eat and the exercise that they subject themselves into. They are just trying to maintain that healthy feeling that promotes happiness.

You too can improve the state you are in. It just might be the solution to the kind of happiness you have been looking for for so long now. What do you need to do?

1. Exercise.

At first, it would seem that your body is not able to endure all the physical hardships that go with exercising. Counteract these by having a positive mindset. Think results. Imagine what you will become some time in the future.

With the kind of foods available to people today, it is no wonder that people die young. If you do want to live long enough to experience happiness, then you need to take care of your health.

Choose the program that fits your needs. Take it slow. There is no need to rush these things. Eventually you will see the result of your hard work.

2. Be kind to yourself.

Some people think poorly of themselves because they have low self-esteem. They think they do not have the physical attributes to make them feel love and acceptance. These people who retreat to their own world.

Your physical looks are not the cornerstone of your happiness. There are more important factors such as health, spirituality, and attitude.

What would you rather be? A good-looking person confined to medications and bouts of illnesses? Or an average person who is healthy and fit enough to enjoy socializing and being active?

Do not downgrade yourself just because you are not perfect. No one is perfect. But everyone can be happy no matter what they look like.

3. Diet change.

If you want to stay healthy, you should start considering your food intake more seriously. Are you living on junk foods and other instant meals that are not offering the vitamins and minerals that your body needs?

If you do not know what is good for you, review the basic teachings about health and diet. This is where you will find what kinds of foods that will prove important to your health.

4. Health is more important than money.

Many people think that they need money to be happy. If you are not healthy, will you be able to enjoy that money?

The purpose of working is to be able to afford a lifestyle that allows you to pursue happiness. Money is only a tool.

Do some soul searching. Now is the best time for you to make choices about how you wish to spend the rest of your life.

Life is as good as I allow it to be.

Whoever is happy will make others happy too. -Mark Twain

This is just another example of what I have been hearing for years. That what we send out is what we get back.

If this is true, then I want to send out lots of good stuff (gratitude, happiness, joy) so that I can get lots of good stuff back.

I recently listened to a message from Joe Vitale that suggests sending love to everyone. He believes that by sending out this emotion on a regular basis, we can have anything that we want.

AA teaches that “love and tolerance of others is our code”. One of the things taught in the Bible is to “love thy neighbor”.

It just seems reasonable to me that if “what goes round, comes round” is accurate, I want good things to be what goes round.

So, I am starting to have in my daily meditation the over riding thought of “I Love You” to be sent out.

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The Cause of Unhappiness

The cause of unhappiness is a belief. What happens, no matter how undesirable or destructive to our life, health, desires or loves, does not cause unhappiness. The belief that we have to be unhappy is the only cause. To state it simply:

“If a person did not believe they had to be unhappy, they would not and could not be.”

We merely believe we need to have things or avoid things in order to avoid unhappiness, which we would not have to fear if we did not believe we needed to be unhappy.

What Causes Unhappiness
The Seven Understandings of All Unhappiness

1. Unhappiness is the feeling of a belief about a perceived or imagined phenomena; not an experience caused by the phenomena or anything else.

2. Unhappiness is experiencing your own believing that an event is bad and/or should not be because you believe IT causes unhappiness.

3. Believing something causes unhappiness is the very reason it seems to “cause” unhappiness.

4. Believing that something can cause unhappiness is the only cause of the fear of it. By “fear” is meant loathing, need to avoid, need to cure, need to kill or eliminate, disgust, hatred, terror, horror, repulsion, disdain and all such similar feelings.

(Fear is not a simple desire to avoid, destroy or otherwise prevent or eliminate a threat to your desire values. That attitude does not need to presume avoiding unhappiness in order to justify a simple desire.)

5. Believing someone or something is morally wrong or evil, psychologically “sick” or behaviorally inappropriate is to fear that person or thing as if it could cause unhappiness.

6. Unhappiness is fearing that unhappiness can “happen” or be caused by anything.

7. Unhappiness is believing that something is necessary, something has to be, should be, ought to be, or must be other than what it is.

When a person is believing he/she has to be unhappy, what they are believing is that they have to be unhappy because they believe they are against themselves. The belief in unhappiness is the belief in being wrong for oneself. Unhappiness, in fact, means that I believe that I do, or want, or think, or feel a way that is bad for me.

A person believes: Certain things I do not want to happen may happen or are now happening. I don’t want them to. I feel bad (and am worried or afraid now) because I “shouldn’t” be thinking negatively about my life now. Maybe I shouldn’t be not wanting what is evidently happening anyway. I am (as-if) denying reality, and that is wrong. I will be unhappy about this in the future because when certain things I do not want or do not like happen I will feel a way that is bad for me. It is wrong to expect misfortune. That is “unhappy” of me.

It doesn’t matter that if the undesirable event happens to me from circumstances out of my control, or if I think I am the cause or part of the cause; unhappiness comes as me believing that I now have proof that I am bad for myself.

“Bad for myself” means I am not really wanting for me what I “should” be wanting for me, and something can prove it. The belief is that this event “proves” it.

Basically, feeling bad means that I believe that what I do, or think, or want, or feel means I am against my own best interests. I believe these are a bad way of doing thinking, wanting or feeling. The way I am being is a bad (wrong, self-defeating) way of being.

This could be called the same as believing that I will be a way I shouldn’t be, or think a way I shouldn’t or want or feel a way I shouldn’t. If we didn’t believe that we could be a way we “shouldn’t” we couldn’t feel unhappy no matter what else we felt.

All unhappiness is the fear that we have a bad attitude for ourselves. We are afraid that something proves we are bad for ourselves in the sense that we are in some way against what we are for, and for what we are against. We are afraid that we have a self-defeating attitude.

The fear that we have a bad, or self-defeating, attitude is the same as distrusting the very source or cause of our motivation. We are unhappy when we believe our very life, our heart, our self is against all that we live for; our personal happiness.

Happiness is the freedom to be as we are, however we are; richer or poorer, in sickness or in health, gaining or losing, succeeding or failing, wanting or not wanting, approving or not approving, forever. Happy is what we are and what we’ll be if we don’t believe we are wrong to be as we are.

by Bruce Di Marsico
Montclair, Saturday, July 3rd, 1993

I have heard it said that there is nothing good or bad in this life, it is just our perception that makes the difference. I decide by the way I think about an item if it is good or bad for me. And, we all do it.

Wayne Dyer talks about something he observed the day the Shuttle exploded on take off from JFK center in Florida. He was preparing for a talk in California and had not heard about the accident. Someone that he was with heard the news about 10 hours after it happened.

This person said “that makes me so sad”. Wayne turned to her and said “if that made you sad, you would have been sad ten hours ago”. So, it is not what happens that effects but what we think about something.

When my grand daughter was born and given a very short life expectancy, we could have just collapsed and become the victim. But, we have decided to celebrate her life and enjoy her while she is physically around.

If one wants to be happy, do it, BE happy.

To see what it takes to be happy, watch a child during a birthday or Christmas celebration. The little ones seem to have more fun playing with the boxes and wrapping than the expensive gift. They are able to be happy thru the use of their imagination, not the stuff.

Life is as good as I allow it to be.

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