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Family Addiction Recovery – The Alcoholic-Addict Went to Rehab, Now What?

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You got him or her checked in. Now what happens? The treatment center staff is probably not going to call you to consult with you about the goals that should go on the treatment plan. You may not even hear from the treatment center staff for awhile. But in the meantime, probably within 72 hours, there is a good chance that you will hear from your significant other saying, “Get me out of here”. The beloved, that you worked so hard to get into treatment, may have a whole host of complaints, ranging from having to have a roommate, not getting to keep cell phones or computers, lousy food, incompetent staff, and not being a “real” alcoholic or addict like the other people in treatment.

Despite any pleading, protestations, and promises to stay clean and sober without treatment, in most circumstances, one of the worst things you can do is to “rescue” them from treatment. If you leave them there and let the process work, chances are good that by the end of their treatment stay, they won’t want to leave to come home.  

When the staff or your significant other calls to ask you to come and participate in treatment, don’t hesitate. The treatment center staff is not going to blame you for the alcoholic/addict’s addiction, not even if the addict is your child. With living in “survivor mode” for so long, you owe it to yourself to participate in a treatment experience that can truly change your life–for the better. If you must look at participating for the sake of your significant other, look at that way, but go and participate. Do whatever you have to do to make it happen. Go with willingness, open-mindedness, and honesty.

While you are there, listen for what pertains to you. When you catch yourself wondering if your significant other has heard what you just learned, let it go. Acquire knowledge for yourself, and don’t worry about “spoon feeding” it to your alcoholic or addict. Resign from being in charge of the addict’s recovery and approach the family program from the frame of reference, “What can I get out of this week?”  

Addiction recovery is a lifelong process, just as recovery from all chronic diseases are. To empower yourself and your addicted loved one, gain as many tools and resources as you can. My website has a number of individual and family dynamics of addiction and recovery. There are Recommended Readings, an “Ask Peggy” column, a Links page with additional resources, and a newsletter that will alert you to new educational/informational opportunity releases. To answer a survey about what you would like to know more about, or to purchase my ebook, “Understanding Cross Addiction to Prevent Relapse” go to http://www.peggyferguson.com/ServicesProvided.en.html

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Gratitude Is An Attitude

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“Be content with such things as ye have.”  – The Bible, Hebrews 13:5

Be grateful for what you have now, and more of the same will be
attracted to you. Gratitude is a feeling that is worthy of
constant practice. Life is easier, happier and more rewarding
when you give thanks for all things, good and bad.

Think of the word gratitude as you include the following values
in your life and for the coming new year.

G….. is for  Gratefulness and appreciation for what you have now,
and for what is to come. Make a list of all the things you are
thankful for, then do what makes your heart feel good.

R…. is for Reality.  What is your truth? Are you living in a
world that emphasizes things that are not true to your beliefs or
way of living and doing? Realism comes from self-discovery,
self-improvement, and a having a positive self-image. Be truthful
in your dealings and interactions with others. Know what is true
to you and live it everyday.

A…. is to Accomplish. Make it a point to dream, plan, and take
action to accomplish or reach your goals. Learn to complete
projects that you start. Even one small success adds greatly to
your sense of accomplishment. Be grateful for your skills that
help you reach your goals.

T…. is to be Trustworthy.  When you can not live up to your word
or promise, it reflects on your character in a negative way. Be
reliable. Have faith in your own decisions, and others will see
you as a caring, giving, strong person. 

I…. is to always Improve. Make yourself better. The will to learn
and grow is a powerful motivation. Learning can cause results
that may seem impossible at first, that eventually become real.
Developing new ways to do old things may make your life easier,
and more fun.

T…. is for the Truth.  Believe it or not, the universe functions
on one basic principle,  which is to present you with the truth
in any situation you find yourself experiencing. Your mind then,
has to interpret the situation and act on it with your best
belief and fastest thought. What you believe is true for you, may
not be true for someone else in the same situation. All is based
on your understanding.  An honest approach to any situation comes
from your strong attachment to the truth as you know it.

U…. is for being Unique.  Start looking at your life with a
feeling and purpose that you can accomplish almost anything. Look
at yourself with an eye for being distinctive, original, and that
your behavior is exceptional. Make a point to seek out ways to
treat others, and yourself, as if they are special and unique.
Place higher values on how and why you react the way you do with
others in your life. Give them the best of yourself and remember the
Golden Rule – then, reverse it – “Do unto yourself as you would do
Unto others.” You are also important!

D…. is for Daring to dream.  Be courageous in your thinking.
Ideas and inventions would never have happened, if they were not
first a dream. Learn to determine your own fate by not limiting
your thoughts. Then put your dreams into action and pursue your
goals.  Create a sense of purpose and accomplishment by daring to
get things done.

E…. is for Energy.  Everything you do, think, or feel is based on
the power of energy. Your life is controlled by how much or how
little effort you put into any activity.  How do you measure the
level of your energy?  Showing a positive attitude of gratitude,
appreciation, and thankfulness increases your energy and attracts
more good things to you.  Especially in this season of sharing
and giving, we all may need a little more energy in getting
through our economic struggles.

Appreciation for what you have now, and knowing what is real in
your  life is so important.  Plan, take action, and accomplish
your dreams and your goals. Be trustworthy and live up to your
word or promise. Always improve to make your life better. In any
situation, be truthful to yourself and others. Be unique, distinctive,
and stand out from the crowd. Then you can dare to dream with
an energy that creates your future in a more positive way.

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